Recently I hit 9 months sober. I decided to reflect on what I’ve observed about my sober self. Some of my observations are as follows:
Things and people are not so annoying when I feel good, and if they are, I’m better equipped to deal with them.
I get less frustrated – I’m never hungover so I’m not constantly starting my day on the back foot, struggling to get through it.
I’m more carefree – Being clear and present means the ability to relax more and enjoy life.
I’m more motivated – I’m not saying I bounce out of bed everyday but I definitely have a whole lot more energy than I did when I was drinking and that has made me want to strive to really live my life and make it better, rather than just wander through it.
I’m less anxious – I feel this most at work. My mind seemed crowded. There was always so much I had to do and prove. The reality is, there was and still is always a lot to do but I now know that I can’t and don’t have to be the one to do it all. For some reason I can’t explain, being sober has allowed me to care less about what others think of me. Most days, I know my own value, what others see is up to them.
I feel more connected – I’ve found that alcohol was never the great social tool I thought it was. I think alcohol, more often than not disconnects people. When you’re drinking you are not your true self. Since stopping drinking I feel so much more connected to those I love.
If you’re struggling with the grip alcohol has on you and want to remove it from your life, good on you. In a world that glorifies booze it’s not always easy but stay strong, you’ll get there.
I’m no expert but if you’re looking for a little advice, something that’s worked for me has been to focus on adjustIng my thinking. Instead of telling myself I shouldn’t drink tonight, I made the very clear distinction that I don’t want to drink. The mind is incredibly malleable. It will believe what you tell it to believe. I now choose to tell my mind I am a sober warrior.